I have told my side of this particular story. Here is another side...
The nurse poked her head into the pastel waiting room at MV Hospital, “Are you with the young lady having a C-section? Yes? Well I just heard a very healthy cry from that delivery room.” I sat stunned and completely overwhelmed, my son Alex had just been born.
When we first began trying to get pregnant, my husband Dave and I talked about the possibility of adopting should nature fail to take its course. In the beginning, we didn’t believe we would require this parental contingency plan. However, the next four years were an emotional and physical roller coaster of basal temperatures, ovulation predictor kits, blood tests, sperm counts, miscarriages, Clomid and intrauterine insemination.
During our final try with our infertility specialist for a ‘high tech’ baby, Dave and I had a heavy, deep and real talk about parenting. We had all our financial and personal ducks in a row, but no duckling. What was important to us was becoming parents and raising a happy and healthy child. How we formed our family was not the main concern. We decided to adopt.
Our first challenge in the process was to confront many of the common myths of adoption. We began reading and talking to people. Once we became educated we immediately felt wildly protective of our unknown child. I was adamant our baby never feel like some sub-human, unloved, unwanted person simply by virtue of being adopted. I was going to educate the world, or at least all our family and friends. I would blast every adoption myth and fear. I became “Adoption Woman.”
One in four families in the United States has been touched by adoption. Once Dave and I began to tell people of our adoption plans, we found ourselves very happily bombarded with the enormity of the adoption community. People we had both known for years were saying things like,
“Oh, I’m adopted.”
“My cousin is adopted.”
“Our children are both adopted.”
Adoption was suddenly everywhere we turned.
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Ms. Birthmom
